I'm a pediatric sleep doctor, author, and in my day job I run the Yale Pediatric Sleep Center. I've been writing about pediatric sleep issues for tired parents since 2012. Join my newsletter to get the best information about sleep problems (and solutions) in children.
Two gentle sleep training techniques for toddlers and preschoolers
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When parents think sleep training, the often think about extinction or CIO sleep training. Although CIO sleep training works well for infants and younger toddlers, I prefer gentler methods for older toddlers and preschoolers, especially if they are anxious. The “Excuse Me Drill” and “Taking a break” are two simple, gentle techniques which work well for children two and up who need their parents to fall asleep. These are two of my favorite techniques, and in my book It’s Never Too Late To Sleep Train, I called them “progressive break” techniques. For both of these techniques, you leave your child alone for a very short period of time between when you turn off the lights and when they fall asleep. Then, you gradually increase the length of time they are alone. Here's the magic part, as your child feels confidence in their ability to be alone, at some point you will come back to the room and they will be asleep! For most parents, I recommend the "taking a break" version, but for anxious kids or those with developmental delay, the "excuse me drill" may work better. Sound appealing? Please read all about it here and share with your friends if you think it is helpful Craig |
Craig Canapari MD
I'm a pediatric sleep doctor, author, and in my day job I run the Yale Pediatric Sleep Center. I've been writing about pediatric sleep issues for tired parents since 2012. Join my newsletter to get the best information about sleep problems (and solutions) in children.
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